10 great sex tips (in 50 words or less)

1. Start with a bang

"Great sex is all about the first 15-30 seconds. Lead with a ‘wow’ and hold on for the ride. Embrace finger to finger, toe to toe and everywhere in between." Grazina Fechner, personality and behavioural specialist

2. Amp up the anticipation

"Use seduction. Start at the beginning of the day by texting and emailing your partner about what you’re going to do to him. Fill the whole day with innuendo and outrageous flirtation. When you see each other, brush against him and prolong the anticipation for as long as possible.” Elle Black, founder of sex toy shop Mimi De Luxe (mimideluxe.com)

3. Breathe him in

"Choose long, slow, deep breaths to open your heart and surrender, or short, sharp and focused breaths to build and expand your pleasure. How you breathe determines the way you feel. More breath, more feeling!" Annette Baulch, facilitator at Oztantra (oztantra.com)

4. Use your imagination

"Imagine yourself as being the most confident, sexy and desired woman in the world. Confidence is the sexiest trait to a man. Even if you don’t feel that bold, you can fake it ’til you make it!" Lisa Phillips, life coach, author and NLP practitioner(amazingcoaching.com.au).

5. Demand respect

"When someone makes you feel truly respected and cared for, it frees you up to get a little wild and experimental." Elly Klein, author of Men Are Like a Box of Chocolates (ellyklein.com, $19.95).

6. Tell him straight

"There’s nothing worse than a partner continually going ‘there’, when you would rather stick with ‘here’. So speak up. Having an open line of communication lets everyone know the boundaries in the boudoir." Tara O’Sullivan, sex and relationship writer

7. Work out

"The key to amazing sex is exercise. Strengthening the muscles of your core, pelvic floor, hips and thighs improves not only blood flow and sensation in all the right areas, but also stamina for holding all those high-pleasure positions."
Andrew Greig, personal trainer at Life Active (lifeactive.com.au)

8. Hold on tight

"One of the functions of the pelvic floor is to close the three passages – anus, urethra and vagina. The stronger the closing capacity of the pelvic floor muscle, the stronger the orgasm you’ll have. Exercise the muscle by gripping your partner’s penis for both short and long holds during sex." Michelle Wright, personal trainer at Mishfit (mishfit.com.au)

9. Ditch routine

"We can get stuck in the routine of what we think sex should be – kissing, foreplay, penetration, ejaculation, sleep. To have good sex, we need to know what we really want, not what we’ve been taught is normal, and explore something new." Dr Nikki Goldstein, sexologist (drnikkig.com.au)

10. Strike a pose

"A yoga posture that invites sensuality and healthy sexual communication is trikonasana, the triangle pose. It’s a hip opener in which you work from the ground up and unravel from the legs to the hips to the torso, into your heart."
Lianne Metcalf, owner of SomaChi Yoga Studio (somachi.com.au)

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