How to get out of your sex rut

If you always do this: Missionary
Do this instead: Get on Top

It’s the go to possie for many couples, but turning your missionary upside down could be the answer to your missionary prayers.

“Of all the sexual positions available, I think missionary is the least conducive to female orgasms, simply because the alignment of angles between the bodies doesn’t actually allow for simultaneous external and internal stimulation,” says sex expert Manisha Lee (klawclub.com).

“Instead try the ‘on top angled’ position in which the man is on the bottom propped up slightly by resting on either his elbows or the palms of his hands, and you sit on top and lean your torso far forward so that you are resting against his chest.
 
By leaning in towards each other the angle of his penis is perfectly geared towards reaching your G-spot, and your clitoris is also being stimulated as it’s being rubbed against his pelvis.The man is taking the bulk of the weight here, so it’s also a perfect time to enjoyed his muscled arms!”

If you always do this: Have sex in the bedroom
Do this instead: Get down in the shower

No doubt your bed sees most of the action, but hey…we all need to wash! So why not save water and take your man along for the ride? “Get some soap or body wash and start lathering your partner up, slowly and deliberately, rubbing your bodies together when you’re all slippery,” suggest intimacy and sexuality coach Pauline Ryeland (healthypassionateliving.com).
 
“Once the soap is washed off, start nibbling and kissing each other all over. You can then straddle him if there’s enough room for him to sit down, or stand with your back to him, bend over slightly and hold on to the taps. Be sure to turn the water down so it’s a nice warm trickle, and experiment with different positions to find what works best in the space you have.”

If you always do this: Quickie sex
Do this instead: Sloooow it down

If sex is done and dusted in the time it takes to heat up a microwave dinner, stop, slow it down, and take the focus off the final act altogether says Lee. Rather than rushing to the end-result of ho-hum penetrative sex, take the time to slow down. Forget the sex part, forget the nudity part even. Take away the element of having to get to the ‘end’.

Have clothes-on sex: you don’t have to wear lingerie, just anything you feel good in or that your partner likes. Enjoy the process of everything that comes before the final act. Spend some time in a curiosity-focused exploration of over the clothes touching. 

Have your partner touch you through the seat of your pants and vice versa. Respond to their responses: go where it sounds like it feels good. Make sure you communicate lots! Linger in this stage for as long as you possibly can and see where it goes.

If you always do this: wait for him to initiate
Do this instead: Make the first move

If your man is always kicking off your sexy times, surprise him by turning the tables. “Start the day by slipping a note into his pocket telling him you can’t wait to see him later,” says Ryeland. “Later send him a text saying you have a surprise for him."

Don’t jump into it as soon as he gets home. Tease him with knowing looks or whisper ‘I can’t wait to f&*k you’ in his ear. When you’re ready, undress him slowly and let him watch you strip. He’ll be wanting you now, but tell him ‘not yet’ and give him a light sensual massage with some oil. Slide your body over his and then there’ll be nothing holding him back.

If you always do this: Oral Sex
Do this instead: The Claw

Next time your man heads downtown, ask him to try ‘The Claw’. “The namesake of my site is a fail-safe penetrative orgasm technique for ladies,” says Lee. “It’s so named because it uses a claw-like hand shape by pressing the two middle fingers towards your thumb.

Once you’re warmed up and a little wet, have your partner insert the two middle fingers into your vagina and place his thumb on the outside of the pelvic bone (just under your tummy) so his palm rests against your clitoris.

Have him imagine he’s aiming for your bellybutton as his fingers inside pulse intermittently – it’s as if you’re trying to get the two middle fingers to touch the thumb through the skin and muscle. This achieves the pinnacle of orgasms, the simultaneous penetrative (G-spot) and external (clitoral) orgasm. And the best thing about it is if you don’t have a partner, you can easily do it youself.
 

Un-Vanilla Sex Moves:

• Prop a large mirror against a wall and then have your partner take you from behind in front of it.
• Walk around the house in something completely see-through as if it’s completely normal. Go nude if you want to up the ante!
• Experiment with light bondage. Tie his hands in silk and don’t let him touch you as you have sex with him on top. 

 By Jessica Martin