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Question:
I am confused about my feelings towards a colleague. We have known and worked closely with each other for about 2 years. We are great friends, very similar in personality, and confide in each other all the time.
Recently, things have felt like they are moving in a non-platonic direction – and there has been a lot of hugging, touching and some kisses goodnight.
We are both single and looking, and I think I am attracted to him. The problem is his seniority at work – and there’s also a substantial age gap. How do I handle this?
from Millie
Answer:
Workplace romance is always tricky and has to be handled delicately. While emotions cannot (and in fact, shouldn’t) be controlled, what we choose do about them is another matter.
It seems like somehow your friendship has developed into a sexual attraction. This is actually quite a healthy way for relationships to start – getting to know each other first and then affection growing naturally.
If you’re both sincere, and it sounds as if you are, there’s nothing wrong with seeing where these feelings take you. I suggest you keep your dating under wraps initially, as you don’t want to be the target of gossip.
If things get serious, come out, be honest, be proud and don’t let others spoil your happiness. Age difference shouldn’t matter if love is real.
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