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"All above advise is really great if the guy is forward enough to approach you. Most aren't I am afra..."

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Question:

I never know if a guy is interested in me! What are some ways to know when he is being subtle about it? Also what are the best ways to get men’s attention in a subtle way? from Julia P

Answer:

This tells me you're not a vain person - which is good!

I always think it's a bit sad when women go round expecting guys to fancy them all the time.  Even the most beautiful woman will not appeal to every male. So, the best thing you can do is not to become self-conscious. Just be natural and trust that you will attract the right kind of man to you. Usually a guy will show you he's interested by firstly making eye contact then hopefully approaching you.

The shy ones might just stare across a crowded room but the best signal is your own instinct. Practise feeling when a guy wants to get to know you. Your intuition is your best guide. 

If, on the other hand, you see someone you like, I suggest you smile broadly and find the first opportunity to make conversation. Keep it light and breezy, be interested in him and see where it goes.

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Comments (13)

• Posted 11 Jul 2008 by man
  Charmaine's advise is so much better & more relaistic/relevant than the silly woman on the cosmo site.
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• Posted 21 Jul 2008 by ?
  That was helpful?
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• Posted 24 Jul 2008 by Charlotte
  The best way to get a mans attention is to make them work for yours, smile and give them flitratious eyes and then wait for them to come to you. you give a little then make them work for it, it will make it more challenging and frustrate the guy that your not begging for his attention.
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• Posted 09 Aug 2008 by rania
  wow thats really great advice thnks :D
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• Posted 22 Sep 2008 by sophie
  most guys dont like making the first move though
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