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Charmaine Saunders, Counsellor
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Question:
My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months. After the first six months of our relationship, he split with me – saying he pretty much wanted to be single. But then a month after that, he said he made a mistake and that he loved me. I gave him a second chance, only to find him looking on singles websites and at other girls.I gave him yet another chance then I found out that he lied to me and was going to hook up with his ex at a concert. I forgave him again and since then things have been better. He says he loves me more then anything. I don’t know if I can trust him anymore and wonder if too much has happened? from shazzz
Answer:
Trust is very hard to regain once it's lost. I can certainly see why you wouldn't feel secure with him anymore.
This guy seems very immature and doesn't know what he really wants -- which is no good to you.
You could suggest a temporary break from each other and see what he says to that. It might give him some time to get his head sorted and then hopefully, he can make a real commitment.
If he's still flirting with other women and playing around on the net, he's not with you in a good way.
Keep seeing him by all means, but keep other options open.
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