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Charmaine Saunders, Counsellor
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Question:
I have suspicions my boyfriend is cheating on me. He's always going out with his mates without me and a few people have mentioned seeing him with other girls but he swears it's not true. I want to trust him but I'm really starting to worry. What should I do? from Kylie
Answer:
The whole trick is separating fact from fantasy. Suspicions are not helpful on their own because they could just be imaginary. I personally never trust third party reports because they can be faulty.
His going out without you isn't a sign in itself. Lots of guys like to see their mates a lot even if they have a girlfriend.
If he's overdoing it, ask him to limit it a bit. As for the infidelity, he now knows he's been sprung and if he's guilty, he'll either stop or he'll carry on and eventually get caught.
In the meantime, don't over-think or worry about possibilities. Concentrate on enjoying the relationship and let the rest take care of itself.
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