How to … have sex in the shower (and enjoy it!)

Soap, tiles, water and a confined space does not for good sex make. No matter how steamy movie stars make shower sex look, it never quite comes off like that in real life.

So how do you get it on slip-and-slide style without cracking your head open? Sex expert Joanne Baker (www.pleasurespot.com.au) says it’s all about the position.

And what would that be? From behind. You need to stand in front of him, slightly bent with your hands on the wall. A waterproof grip mat is good to put on the floor so you don’t slip.

Add something extra with the Hot Shower Sex Pack, $25, available at www.pashparties.com.au. It includes a shower massage gel, silicone lube and a waterproof sex card with positions that you stick to the walls.

How to … tie him up without feeling like a freak

Been wanting to try a bit of bondage but haven’t had the guts to give it a go? Dr Gabrielle Morrissey, author of Spicy Sex (Harper Collins, $24.95) says the best way to bring out your wild side is slowly.

“Ease into it and you’ll feel more comfortable,” she suggests. “Discuss it with your partner so you both know where the night will lead and get in the mood with music, a sexy black outfit and feathers, massage oils or food to tease his senses.”

Blindfold him and direct him towards the bed, tying his hands and feet with soft strips of fabric – just make sure you’re easily able to untie him later.

Watch his mouth to gauge his reaction and if he’s smiling, go for it! Do everything you normally would, but really pay attention to his whole body.

How to …choose a porn flick you’ll like too

Candida Royalle, the world’s most successful female erotic film director, says, “Women want to see an adult movie that makes them feel good about their sexuality, that inspires them.”

With this in mind, look for a flick that sparks something in you. Firstly, take note of the cover. If it offends you or looks a little too hardcore then chances are the movie will be the same.
Secondly, read the synopsis. Women tend to relate best to movies that have a story line or where seduction is a big part of the plot. And finally ask the sales assistant for help.

That’s what they’re there for! You may want to visit a female-friendly adult store if you’d prefer or try browsing online at sites such as www.adultflix.com.au